Monday, July 18, 2011

Honesty


Improvement begins with an honest assessment of your current condition.
If you don't know where you are, how can you figure out how to get where you want? - today's Life-Cise Tip.

That idea applies to many things. It certainly applies to how I chose to face my cancer, and it applies to just about any goal - including fitness.

I've written before about how I don't believe in relying on positive thinking. I don't believe that "having a good attitude" will keep me alive. I chose to make a completely honest assessment of my situation, no matter how scary. It was only in that way that I could make the best choices about my treatment.

I'm not the only one to think and write about this. A couple of recent posts on the subject come from my friend Nancy, from Nancy's Point; and Beth, from Calling the Shots. Beth writes about the possible perils of relying on attitude. Both are well worth reading.

We know that people are well-meaning when they encourage us to keep a good attitude. There may be emotional benefits to keeping a good attitude, but thinking positively does not save our lives. Facing our disease head on, honestly; and making a good plan with our doctors and families just might, though.

This same level of honesty is also the best way to make real progress in fitness, whatever your goal. It's the same principal: you have to know your current situation in order to make a reasonable, well-thought-out plan. That will give you the best chance for real success.

Over the years, I've heard people say I'm being negative or too hard on myself when I make an assessment of my current strengths and weaknesses. I disagree. Whether it's learning a piece of music or the skills to climb a mountain, I must know what I need to improve if I want to progress.

I'm not talking about beating myself up or belittling my skills. I'm talking about honesty. If I think that in certain music, my rhythm could be better, that takes nothing away from my good intonation or beautiful sound. But if I don't recognize that, how will I know to work on rhythm and improve? If I say I'm not a fast runner, that takes nothing away from the tremendous endurance I have to run a 50-mile race. But if I don't recognize that I could be faster, how will I improve?

And once I know what I want to improve, I can figure out the best way to do it.

What do you want to improve? Be specific. Your overall health? What specifically? - Your energy levels (especially if you're in treatment or recently finished)? Do you want to lose a few pounds? Or a lot? Do you want to be strong enough to play basketball with your son? Do you want to run a marathon?

With regard to that goal, where are you right now? What needs improvement?....honestly.

You've made the first step toward that goal. Now you can make the best plan to get there.

Julie

5 comments:

Cheryl said...

Julie, once again, you have me thinking. No good expecting a miracle if I am not going to do what is required to make it happen.
I would like to believe that I have a good attitude, however, my position tells me it is not enough.
Thanks so much. Will also read recent posts of Nancy and Beth as I have been absent for a bit.

Julie Goodale said...

Cheryl, you are one of the reasons I get so bugged by people who say you just have to want it enough or think positively enough. You have an amazing spirit & attitude! But cancer is a wily opponent and doesn't care what any of us thinks. I so admire you because you do face whatever the news is honestly. You do not avert your eyes, and still you live a life filled with hope. I think that's the difference I'm talking about: living with hope rather than just being hopeful.

nancyspoint said...

Julie,
What great advice here. I think I've been struggling with this honesty thing a little in evaluating myself and in trying to figure out where I want to go in regard to fitness. I have so many limitations now it seems and I have to constantly adjust, but that is not an excuse to not get out there and do stuff. As always, honesty is the best policy, even in the realm of fitness. And thanks for the mention. The whole positive attitude thing drives me a little crazy at times.

Beth L. Gainer said...

Julie,

You are so right about honestly assessing one's situation and how to improve it. There's a difference between honest realism and pessimism.

I think you have the right attitude. And thank you so much for mentioning my blog. I appreciate it.

gillian said...

How wonderful to hear a music analogy from you. That is a part of your life you seldom write about.